The Nature of Consequences


  Posted on October 26, 2019

I’ve been reading Proverbs all year. Over and over again, God says certain kinds of behavior will result in certain kinds of consequences. It may take a while to get there, but the fruit you get will ultimately reflect the seed you planted.

I think this is terribly important when you are talking about marriage.

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Being unconcerned and unintentional about your marriage leaves your marriage vulnerable to a number of marriage-killing attitudes and circumstances.

Being thoughtful and intentional about growing your marriage means your marriage has a chance to survive … and even thrive.

Y’all, keep learning, growing, and investing in your marriage. It does take two to make a healthy, strong marriage, but when you do your part, you are doing what you can to make your marriage last for a lifetime and be worth the effort.

No marriage will last a lifetime if left on the backburner. Give your marriage your best investment, not your leftovers.  Mark & Jill Savage

Is Dwelling on the Negative Hurting You?

Is Dwelling on the Negative Hurting You?

You are sitting at home and your mind keeps going over the negatives — over and over. You keep reviewing what has happened to you — perhaps a conflict with someone, something at work, your living conditions, your finances, your health. Whatever. You dwell on it. You are stuck.

What is Rumination?

A lot of people sit at home, dwell on the negative and find themselves getting deeper and deeper in their depression. Psychologists call this style of repetitive negative thoughts “rumination.” When cows ruminate, they chew on their cud, chomping over and over without swallowing. When humans ruminate, they repeat negative thoughts over and over, dwelling on something either in the past or the present — but do nothing to change anything. Ruminating is like spinning your wheels in the mud. You don’t seem to be getting anywhere, so you just keep spinning your wheels, faster and faster. You keep digging a hole, find yourself stuck, and dig deeper and deeper.

Examples of rumination include repeating in your mind negative experiences in the past, replaying conversations that you had, dwelling on the “injuries” and “injustices” that you have suffered, or asking questions that don’t have answers, such as “Why am I so depressed?,” “Why me?,” “What is the meaning of all of this?” or “Why did he or she say that?” You may ruminate about your physical maladies, your aches and pains, your emotions, your sensations or just about anything. The key thing is that you are stuck.

The Cost of Rumination

Susan Nolen-Hoeksema at Yale University has been studying this problematic style for years. Her research shows that people who ruminate are more likely to get depressed and stay depressed. She finds that women are more likely than men to ruminate — and that this partly predicts the greater likelihood of depression in women. We also know that to some extent rumination is a way to avoid emotions — you are stuck in your thinking because you can’t face the emotions that you may have. You are over-thinking, trying to make sense, trying to get the answer.

And, when you are ruminating you are temporarily withdrawn from reality. You are not active, you aren’t socializing, you are not living in the present moment. You are somewhere else — in your head, in your thoughts, in a different time. You think you are “doing something,” but you are not pursuing goals, nothing is happening, you are stuck.

How Does Rumination Make Sense To You?

Many people who ruminate actually don’t realize that they have a choice. “These thoughts just come into my head and I can’t get rid of them.” It’s as if a thought pops up and you have to entertain it for an hour. You don’t. You do have a choice. For example, you are ruminating and the phone rings. You stop ruminating and talk on the phone. You temporarily set it aside.

Others ruminate because they believe that they will forget what they wanted to remember that was so negative. This is a combination of what psychologists, like Adrian Wells at the University of Manchester, call “cognitive incompetence” and “cognitive consciousness”– where you don’t trust your memory and you are continually focused on your thinking. You can’t trust your memory so you repeat the rumination. But because you think you have to pay attention to every thought that occurs, you are overwhelmed — and there is more to remember.

You also think that thinking about it will give you clarity, give you the final insight, and that everything will make sense. Adrian Wells’s research indicates that ruminators often believe that they have a responsibility to figure it out, that their rumination will lead to solving a problem and that their rumination will motivate them. Sometimes, of course, thinking about what has happened can lead to learning from your mistakes, it can motivate you to try harder, or it can help you find some meaning in your experience. But many times rumination simply leads to getting stuck in the negative, withdrawing from reality, and trapping you in an endless loop of questions without sufficient answers.

Is Your Rumination Helping or Hurting You?

It’s helping if you actually get answers — and get them rather quickly. It’s hurting if you continue repeating the questions and get nowhere.

It’s helping if you get a to-do list today — that is, some concrete behavior that you can engage in that will solve the problem. It’s hurting if you can’t figure out what to do except continue ruminating.

There are roadblocks in setting aside rumination. These include your demand for certainty — “I need to know for sure.” You won’t get certainty in an uncertain world. Another roadblock is your unwillingness to accept that unfair things do happen — and that rumination won’t change that. Bad things happen to good people — including you. If you demand certainty and always expect fairness — and then dwell on these things — you are losing your life one moment at a time. No one says, “I really care for you and I hope that you ruminate every day over the next year.”

How To Set Aside Rumination

If you have concluded that rumination is a problem for you — or if your partner thinks you are complaining too much about your negative thoughts — then consider the following:

  1. Will this rumination really help me? What do you hope to gain? Will you really “get the answer?” Will everything make sense? Has it really worked for you? If not, try the next step.

  Set aside rumination time.
This is quite simple, but you will think it may be impossible. Write out the topic of your current rumination — when it occurs — and set up an appointment with it later in the day. Let’s say your rumination time is 4:30 PM. If you ruminate at 10 AM or 10 PM then write it down and think about it at 4:30. Chances are it won’t bother you very much when you meet up with it — and you will be able to enjoy your life during the rest of the day.

  Is there a real problem to solve now?
I like to use this with my own rumination. If I find myself dwelling on something, I try to ask myself, “Is there a problem to solve?” If there is, I then go into problem-solving mode, listing the goal, resources, and writing out a plan, if necessary. Often there is no real problem to solve — it’s a problem that happened in the past. It’s unfortunate, perhaps, but it’s dead and gone.

  Focus on goals that you can accomplish.
A lot of your rumination is focusing on goals you can’t achieve — like changing the past. Let’s say that life is a buffet. If one of the entrees is distasteful, try something else. If you are focusing on a conversation last week — and you are miserable and ruminating — then refocus onto something that is fun today. Changing goals changes the way you think and feel.

  Learn to accept the world in order to live in it. You often ruminate because they reality you chew on is not the one you can swallow. Try accepting that things can be unclear, unfair, unfortunate and unpleasant. That doesn’t mean you like it — doesn’t mean you are saying it’s “OK.” It just means that you say, “I notice it is what it is, but I want to get on with my life.” If you don’t accept what is given, you will drag yourself down further — it’s like treating yourself unfairly (by ruminating) because unfair things have happened. Accepting the past allows you to build the future.

Keep in mind that living in your repetitive thoughts will not solve the problems you need to solve and will not give you the pleasure of the present moment. You have been hitting yourself in the head with rumination. Put down the hammer and pick up your life.

And if you are a Spiritual Person, you can add a whole new dynamic to this train of thought. Not only do you have a chance to stop dwelling on problems, but you have a Creator who has given us promise in the ancient writings! The Bible, to help us with focus on the right things. The good things, not the negative, that is flooding us on all sides.

A Look Into My Soul: A Bad Choice & Extreme Sorrow

So, during a deep time of reflection this past morning, realized, in a very real way, and, “Felt” the pain that I caused to my wife with the mis-use of my words. The sad and unfortunate thing, is these times happened while I was under the influence of Alcohol, and was under the influence, through a series of unfortunate events, and it all boiled down to me, making a bad choice, and now, am paying for that choice.

Was feeling this anguish in my spirit since about 1:30 am last night, woke up from a dream, in tears, feeling the pain and sorrow that brought to my wife. Yes, this is very difficult to share, and talk about, but, it is a real thing. There is hope, yes, but this season, is very difficult, for all of us, all because I made a bad choice. There is no one to blame, but myself, for my choice, and I take it even a step further to say that the enemy of my soul has been at work to Steal, Kill and Destroy all that God has set before Jill and I.

Now, we are reeling from the pain of what happened this past year. For you see, this event has happened a handful of times, and each time, i promised to make things right, and yet, chose that path like 6 times, and now, paying for it all dearly.

Please pray for my wife Jill. She felt the sting of the words I spoke, which, by the way, were not true. They were all lies of the enemies camp. It is during this course that I realized that the battle was literally going on between my hears and in my brain. And the enemy used alcohol as a catalyst to compound the problem. Yes, I still take full responsibility, and now, only wish I can take back the words that were spoken. Oh how I pray that God will redeem the time and the days.

God gave me a dream the past 48 hours, and it showed me some very real hope of restoration, healing, love, joy, peace, forgiveness, wholeness and a time of refreshing, this time is here, now and God is asking me to declare the power word of his promise and cancel out the negative words that were spoken. I have been in the battle of my life for my marriage, spiritually, right now.

No more, is there any desire for alcohol, in any form. From this day forward, I chose to live free of alcohol and its power. With my higher power by my side, and in my heart, I am overcoming this.

My choice is from chains, to freedom.

And I know exactly what that looks like, how it feels, and how life should be done! I have missed it for over a year, been getting alot right, but missed one very crucial point in life to be truely successful, and that is following my Creator, with all my Heart. Which, when done, brings very real life transformation, brings healing, brings restoration, brings freedom and brings lots of hope. As I learn to stand on His word no matter what life throws in my direction. No more Fear, only Faith. I am taking a step out of the boat to head towards my creator, in this storm I am in, and believing that all will be well.

Yes, it was sins of the past that brought me to this point in life. And that of not dealing with things that were brought to my attention years ago. Now, they are dealt with, and it is time to move forward and move upward and onward.

It is my hope and prayer that God Fully Redeems and Restores Jill and I and our relationship. I was told, as was spending some time in prayer, and believe that God spoke to my heart. Was wondering why I could not stop thinking of Jill, why and how this new found relationship has caused my heart to literally go pitter patter. THAT has never happened to me before, like ever. Then God spoke to my heart and said, “I wired you to love her.” And she told me that God spoke to her heart that it was okay to “Love Me” as well. And so began our journey.

Now, because of a bad choice, our relationship teeters on the depths of despair.

Please, this is my plea, “Pray that God heals and Restores our relationship.

What are Generational Curses?

What is a Generational Curse?

On this crisp, fall morning, and a blistering 39 degrees out, I feel the cold damp air hit my face.  And it got me to thinking about how this weather, right now, seems sad.  Like a deep sorrow is in the air.  And then, looking at my own life, realize there have been times that I have had things happen to me that cannot simply explain, why those things happened.

And it was brought to my attention, that because I am a Jr., there are generational things in my life that need to be broken.  Not complete sure, yet what those are, but have become a topic of prayer for me, asking the Creator to show me what it is that needs to be broken, for good.  From this day forward, no longer bound to the sins of the past.

A generational curse is believed to be passed down from one generation to another due to rebellion against God. If your family line is marked by divorce, incest, poverty, anger or other ungodly patterns, you’re likely under a generational curse. The Bible says that these curses are tied to choices. Deuteronomy 30:19 says we can either choose life and blessing or death and cursing. 

Our families have the greatest influence on our development, including the development of our patterns of sin. Some people even assert that family or generational curses are passed down along generational lines. This belief comes from Old Testament passages which say that God “punishes the children and their children for the sins of the fathers to the third and fourth generation” (Exodus 34:7). 

Whether or not families inherit spiritual curses, it is obvious that patterns of sin are passed down through families. Everyone sins; but just as culture, ethnicity, and gender steer our patterns of sin in particular directions, so do our families.

We inherit many traits and preferences from our parents that aren’t always a positive influence on ourselves or others. When we acquire a sinful habit or belief that negatively affects our lives or those around us, this is known as a generational curse. It is the shadow side of behavior passed down through the generations but is it possible to break this cycle of suffering?

Generational Curses in the Bible

Based on texts taken out of context and used as pretexts, it has become increasingly common for Christians to suppose that they are victims of generational curses. As such, they suppose they have inherited demons ranging from anger to alcoholism, from laziness to lust. Closer examination, however, demonstrates this notion to be seriously flawed.

Scripture clearly communicates that consequences – not curses – are passed on through the generations. 

In this sense, the Bible says that children are punished for the sins of their fathers “to the third and fourth generation” (Exodus 20:5). The children of alcoholic fathers frequently suffer neglect and abuse as a direct consequence of their father’s sinful behavior. Moreover, the descendants of those who hate God are likely to follow in the footsteps of their forefathers.

Scripture explicitly tells us that “the son will not share the guilt of the father, nor will the father share the guilt of the son.” (Ezekiel 18:20).

Indeed, when ancient Israel quoted the proverb, “The fathers eat sour grapes, and the children’s teeth are set on edge” (Ezekiel 18:2), God responded in no uncertain terms: “As surely as I live, declares the Sovereign Lord, you will no longer quote this proverb in Israel….The soul who sins is the one who will die” (vv.3–4).

Finally, While the notion of generational curses is foreign to Scripture, there is a sense in which the curse of sin has been passed on from generation to generation. Through the first Adam, “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). Through the second Adam—Jesus Christ—atonement is offered to all. Says Paul, “Just as the result of one trespass was condemnation for all men, so also the result of one act of righteousness was justification that brings life for all men” (Romans 5:18). Through no act of our own we are condemned; likewise, through no act of our own, we are saved (Romans 5:12–21).

— Hank Hanegraaff

Breaking the Generational Curse 

Breaking the Generational Curse
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Maybe you’ve inherited a family curse, or maybe the curse has begun with you. Either way, God has a plan for your freedom that will shatter the chains of that cycle forever! It will stop it in your life and stop it from passing on to your children!

“The word of the Lord came to me again, saying, ‘What do you mean when you use this proverb concerning the land of Israel, saying: ‘The fathers have eaten sour grapes, and the children’s teeth are set on edge’? ‘As I live,’ says the LORD GOD, ‘you shall no longer use this proverb in Israel. Behold, all souls are mine; the soul of the father as well as the soul of the son is mine'” (Ezekiel 18:1-4).

You can be free! John 8:31-36 reminds us that as we abide in Jesus Christ, we receive His freedom. Not only has Jesus set us free from our sins, He has set us free from the penalty, the moral liability, and the ongoing curse of that sin! Jesus Christ is the Anointed One. That means He is the burden-removing, yoke-destroying power of God in our lives.

There’s going to come a time when the fathers may eat sour grapes, but the children’s teeth will not be set on edge when the curse will not be passed down from generation to generation. It doesn’t have to be “like father like son.” Through the shed blood of Jesus Christ, we have a new and better covenant with God the Father. Through Jesus’ blood, He forgives us our sin and delivers us from iniquity.

God has redeemed us from the curses being passed on from one generation to the next. This redemption comes as we understand that the root of our problems is in the spiritual realm. As we apply God’s Word and power to our lives, and we choose to walk in righteousness and obedience to God, the chains of bondage will be broken. The freedom we have longed for can become reality!

Time to move from Fear to Faith

3 Important Steps to Move From Fear to Faith

By the time I was a young man, I had suffered a lifetime of good things, and disappointments. I had seen more death than most do in a lifetime And all of those things shaped me and molded me with fear.

But the journey I embarked upon a few years back was far worse than I could have even imagined. A number of years ago, I decided to walk away from Corporate America and accept this call on my life to minister once again. I was scared and felt ill-equipped, but I did it anyway. And the ministry quickly grew.

Fear had beaten me down and strangled the life from me. It was gradual and I usually masked it well. But most days, I spent my time crying uncontrollably. That’s what fear does. It strangles, immobilizes, subtracts, withers, crushes, and shatters. It grips our soul and snatches every dream. What once was the joy of the Lord somehow becomes replaced with anger and hopelessness. Fear encourages us to give up and accept the misery of existence versus the excitement of a God-led pursuit.

Many Christians are struggling with fear and allowing it to take our voice and strangle us – secretly and slowly. Yet, our Father in Heaven paid for us to have an abundant life, free from fear and worry and anxiety.

There are 3 important steps that we can take that will allows us to master fear and move into the freedom Christ paid for us to have.

1. Acknowledge what fear is.

If fear didn’t come from the Lord, then who gave it to us? As Christians, we must understand that fear was given to us by Satan as a mere tactic to keep us distracted and off course for the plans the Lord has for us. We must understand it for what is, then realize we have the authority to dispel fear with the power of Christ’s shed blood.

For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and  sound mind. 1 Timothy 1:7

2. Seek God until he takes away our fears.

Keep pursuing freedom from fear, even when everything around you seems scary and hopeless and endless. Keep asking God to deliver you from the fear that is being forced upon you.

Keep on asking and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking and you will find. Keep on knocking and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will open. Matthew 7:7-8

3. Speak truth.

Speak truth over your fear, even when you don’t feel like, even when it seems impossible, and even when it’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done. When Moses died, I am sure that Joshua was afraid of what God was now calling him to do in the book of Joshua. I am sure he had no idea of how he would lead the Israelites. He never expected to be in that situation. Do you find yourself in an unexpected situation today? Are you fearful of your future? Your kids choices? Your finances? Your marriage? Your singleness? God’s word promises you victory, authority, and strength. No one will be able to stand against you as long as you live. For I will be with you as I was with Moses. I will not fail you or abandon you. Joshua 1:5

Don’t clamor in a corner like one with no hope. You are a child of the King of Kings. You are more than a conqueror in Christ. That challenge, that thing you are facing, is not bigger than your God. He will never leave you. When fear comes for you, don’t retreat and allow it to strangle you. Get ready for war. Wage war against the evil one who has attempted to lie to you and steal the joy God has paid for you to have. Take authority and stand against it. 

You CAN Fly…

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Reflecting on times past…

This morning I woke up hearing these words in my mind. I reached for the computer and with my eyes closed, just started typing. I’m not sure where it came from or what I must have been dreaming, but I wrote it just as I heard it. When I read it later today I thought it wasn’t half bad, so I decided to share it with you. Comments are so welcome on this one! Here it is…….

You can do it! Don’t listen to the naysayers, those that haven’t done what you’re trying to accomplish, or those who never will. You are the only one who knows the dream in your heart. Don’t listen to the voice in your head that doubts the passion of your heart. The heart is always right, even though the head can sometimes appear quite convincing.  That passion was put there for a reason. Honor it. Treasure it. Listen to it! Follow where it leads you without question.

The road may be a new trail and the path may appear bumpy. You might be scared and even feel afraid, but you know deep in your heart that the fear isn’t real. It’s just your body experiencing something new and the mind starting to play survival tricks with you all over again. That voice of fear may come in handy if a tiger is chasing you, but not today. Today is the day for the dreamer in you to surface. So wake up your inner dreamer. Give your inner dreamer permission to shout its message to you and shine!  Listen to what you hear if you’re scared. For when the passion is louder than the fear, you’ll succeed. You can do this. I believe in you! You’ve done things scarier than this before and you’ve lived through those experiences too. So go for it!

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You Can Fly!

Walk right on up to that ledge, stand on the edge and look down at your knees knocking, your whole body trembling, and don’t mistake the excitement and anticipation of your experience for fear of the unknown. Feel the adrenaline coursing through your body, and then, when your rational mind least expects it, jump! Leap into the unknown knowing that it’s the only way for you to achieve your dream. Jump into your future. The ledge is no place for dreamers. You were born to fly. Jump and let those shiny wings of yours do what they were made to do. Embrace the adventure called LIFE and soar. I know you can do it, for I’ve seen your wings. I know that they’re there waiting to unfold into the glory of who you really are.

Sometimes when you’re not looking I see them try to poke out of the confines your mind has placed around them. Trust me when I tell you that you can fly. If you don’t believe in yourself yet, trust what I tell you and allow me to believe in you until you see it for yourself. And when you believe it, you’ll see it. And if you’re not ready to believe it quite yet, just pretend with me for just a bit, until your own belief grows so strong that no ledge can ever hold you back.

You were born to soar with the eagles. So come with me. Bring your dream into your mind. Feel the excitement. Taste the fear- and jump anyway! I’ll be there to fly with you, wingtip-to-wingtip, soaring over the mundane and the mediocre, the boring and the predictable. Woohoo! Doesn’t that feel good to stretch your wings, your limits and the boundaries of your mind and allow what’s in your heart to just burst forth with enthusiasm and say “YES!” to the dream? Go for it! Dip a little to the left, bank through that turn and whoa, watch out for that thermal. This breeze up here is strong and sometimes unpredictable, but we can handle it. You can do this. After all, it’s your dream and you were born to fly!

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Choices and Consequences

Would you say that you truly understand the importance of the choices you make? If you’ve never really consider the outcomes to the actions you take, you will after reading these insightful quotes about choices.

We feel like the good things happen to us, while the bad things are our fault. What we need to realize is that each and every day, we make numerous choices that influence the outcome of all areas of our lives.

Quotes about Choices and Consequences

We can learn from our missteps, and we can build on our strengths. Your life is made up of an endless amount of choices, so instead of procrastinating in fear of making the wrong decisions, face the options before you with courage and confidence.

To help you create the life you want to live, below are some quotes about choices – and facing the consequences that come with them.


The Best Choices and Consequences Quotes

1.) “Life presents many choices, the choices we make determine our future.” – Catherine Pulsifer

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2.) “The hardest decisions in life are not between good and bad or right and wrong, but between two goods or two rights.” – Joe Andrew

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3.) “And in life, it is all about choices we make. And how the direction of our lives comes down to the choices we choose.” – Catherine Pulsifer

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4.) “Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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5.) “When we find inspiration, we need to take action for ourselves and for our communities. Even if it means making a hard choice, or cutting out something and leaving it in your past.” – Aron Ralston

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6.) “Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision.” – Anthony Robbins

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7.) “In every single thing you do, you are choosing a direction. Your life is a product of choices.” – Dr. Kathleen Hall

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8.) “The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.” – Amelia Earhart

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9.) “And we have complete control over our own attitude. We are the ones who decide how we feel, how we look at things, how we react.” – Catherine Pulsifer

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10.) “This is as true in everyday life as it is in battle: we are given one life and the decision is ours whether to wait for circumstances to make up our mind, or whether to act, and in acting, to live.” – Omar Bradley

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Wise quotes about choices and consequences

11.) “Each person has a choice; the choice to do as one may wish and as one wants remains with the individual. If a person sees no benefit to change, they will not change.” – Byron Pulsifer

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12.) “We are the creative force of our life, and through our own decisions rather than our conditions, if we carefully learn to do certain things, we can accomplish those goals.” – Stephen Covey

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13.) “Did you know that to worry about a situation you are making a conscious choice to do so?” – Mike C. Adams

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14.) “We all need to decide whether to “play it safe” in life and worry about the downside, or instead take a chance, by being who we really are and living the life our heart desires. Which choice are you making?” – Charlie Badenhop

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15.) “There are a lot of things going on with my life right now that don’t just have to do with career. So I have a hard time making decisions about work. That’s really a luxury problem.” – Philip Seymour Hoffman

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Powerful quotes about choices and consequences

16.) “You came empty on earth, why overloaded now, were all your choices absolutely correct, it is never too late to reconsider them?” – William Ngwako Maphoto

powerful quotes about choices

17.) “We are partners by fate. We become friends by choice.” – Jacquie McTaggart

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18.) “You always do what you want to do. This is true with every act. You may say that you had to do something, or that you were forced to, but actually, whatever you do, you do by choice. Only you have the power to choose for yourself.” – W. Clement Stone

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19.) “The choices that we make in our life, indeed determine the kind of results that we experience and the quality of the life that we live.” – Sumeet Jain

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20.) “The choices we make every minute of every day can contribute to making someone’s life a little bit better or worse even without intending to.” – Chikamso Efobi

Quotes about choices to motivate you

21.) “If you don’t have the information you need to make wise choices, find someone who does.” – Lori Hil

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22.) “I discovered I always have choices, and sometimes, it’s only a choice of attitude.” – Judith M. Knowlton

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23.) “May your choices reflect your hopes not your fears.” – Nelson Mandela

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24.) “In my experience working with a variety of people over several decades, far too many individuals choose to be anonymous members of the pack, therefore suffering from the inner remorse that makes them feel like failures, filled with conflict and resentment and wondering what the meaning of life is.” –  Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

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25.) “By knowing that you can fail and making the choice to take the risk you will be setting yourself up for success and not failure.” – Jennifer N. Smith

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26.) “Life is a choice – as is how you handle the pitfalls along its bumpy road.” – Julie Donner Andersen

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27.) “Addicts cannot change the abuse suffered in childhood. They cannot undo the choices they have made or the hurt they have caused. But they can change the future – through the power they have in the present moment.” – Ryan Holiday, Stephen Hanselman

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28.) “Most of the choices we make each day may feel like the products of well-considered decision making, but they’re not. They’re habits. And though each habit means relatively little on its own, over time, the meals we order, what we say to our kids each night, whether we save or spend, how often we exercise, and the way we organize our thoughts and work routines have enormous impacts on our health, productivity, financial security, and happiness.” – Charles Duhigg

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29.) “Any decision I make is the biggest decision of my life.” – Carmelo Anthony

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30.) “Expanding our capacity to talk, particularly when we face critical choices, is a life-enhancing skill. I believe that there is no faster way for us to evolve than through the process of interacting with one another.” – Sarah Rozenthuler

Quotes about choices to help you grow

31.) “In this new era, you have two choices: become a temp staffer (not a horrible choice) or become an artist-entrepreneur. Choose to commoditize your labor or choose yourself to be a creator, an innovator, an artist, an investor, a marketer, and an entrepreneur.” – James Altucher

32.) “Concision in style, precision in thought, decision in life.” – Victor Hugo

33.) “Big changes don’t have to be hard, but they do have to start with a choice. This is where real change begins; where you start taking control of your life and how you choose to live it; this is where it all starts.” – Nathalie Thompson

34.) “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” ― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

35.) “You cannot control the behavior of others, but you can always choose how you respond to it.”― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

36.) “The choices you make now, the people you surround yourself with, they all have the potential to affect your life, even who you are, forever.”

― Sarah Dessen, The Truth About Forever

37.) “Desires dictate our priorities, priorities shape our choices, and choices determine our actions.”― Dallin H. Oaks

38.) “Everyone has choices to make; no one has the right to take those choices away from us. Not even out of love..”― Cassandra Clare, City of Ashes

39.) “The hardest choices in life aren’t between what’s right and what’s wrong but between what’s right and what’s best.”― Jamie Ford, Hotel on the Corner of Bitter and Sweet

40.) “Sometimes good choices are really bad ones, wrapped up in so much fear you can’t even see straight.”― Deb Caletti, The Secret Life of Prince Charming

Other inspirational quotes about choices and consequences

41.) “It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” ― Roy Disney

42.) “We all make choices, but in the end our choices make us.” ― Ken Levine

43.) “It’s our choices that matter in the end. Not wishes, not words, not promises.” ― Alexandra Bracken , Passenger

44.) “Choose your love. Love your choice.”― Thomas S. Monson

45.) “In the end that was the choice you made, and it doesn’t matter how hard it was to make it. It matters that you did.”― Cassandra Clare, City of Glass

46.) “The right choice is hardly ever the easy choice.”― Rick Riordan, The Throne of Fire

47.) “Sometimes it doesn’t matter too much what choice you make, as long as you make it quick and stick to it.” ― Joe Abercrombie, Last Argument of Kings

48.) “You can’t make yourself feel positive, but you can choose how to act, and if you choose right, it builds your confidence.”― Julien Smith, The Flinch

49.) “Not to decide is to decide.”― Harvey Cox

50.) “We are free to choose our paths, but we can’t choose the consequences that come with them.”― Sean Covey, The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective Teens

Which are your favorite quotes about choices and consequences?

Realizing and acknowledging the choices that we make is empowering – whether the outcome is good or bad. It is also important, as it helps us evaluate what we do and do not have control over.

Feel Like A Stranger in My Own Home…

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Has anyone else ever felt this way?

When I get home, it feels like I am a stranger in my own home. It is a weird emotion and sensation. Through a series of unfortunate events, this has occurred. It is a sad emotion, and really trying to trust to hope. And even that is difficult, because of the immediate feeling of loss is always right there, gnawing at the back of my mind.

All I can do is pray, and hope. Maybe one day this will pass, and maybe it won’t. It is all going to depend on the new choices on the horizon.

A weird feeling for sure. One that I hope goes away soon.

The Many Benefits of Chartering a Private Jet…

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Why Charter A Private Jet?

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Convenience is probably the most important factor when you charter a private jet. Choosing to rent a private jet over commercial airline gives you supreme convenience over extreme inconvenience.

When you utilize our jet charter service, you are the one choosing your personalized flight details, not someone else’s. You get to choose the airport location, the time frame, the charter jet plane, and people you fly with. You are able to fly closer to your final destination, which cuts down on car rentals or taxi fare.

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The convenience of not having to go through the traditional airport procedures is of great value to all travelers. Consider the time you will save by not having to arrive two hours early to check in for your flight and not having to go through security.

On a private jet you will not have to check certain bags and stow others. You can bring that bottle of juice, bagel and any other catering item you crave with you. You can keep your shoes on and use your cell phone/electronic equipment freely as long as you have a signal.

You can carry on those items that a commercial flight would not allow. When you charter a jet with Club Jet there are no size limits to liquids or weight limits on your luggage. The added convenience of being able to pack and carry anything you want on your jet will make preparing for your trip easier and less stressful, whether you are traveling for business or pleasure.

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Being able to walk a short distance to your charter jet rather than miles through the large airports is extremely satisfying. The charter flight itself is shorter due to more efficient procedures, getting you to your final destination sooner.

Growing a Window Garden…

Are you looking to join the locavore movement? Well, it doesn’t get much more local than growing your own…unless you grow your own right there in the kitchen next to the stove!

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Sprouts are the easiest thing to grow in a small space such as a kitchen counter. This is simple stuff. Seeds will sprout with nothing more than water and air. Sure, you can buy a kit, but really all that you need is a paper towel, a hemp bag or a jar.

First, rinse your seeds well, then place them in a bowl full of water and let them soak over night. If you’re using a paper towel, spread the towel on a plate, soak it then spread the seeds evenly on top. Use a spray bottle to keep the seeds moist. If you go the hemp bag route, just dumped the previously soaked seeds into the bag, spray it with your bottle until it drips and hang it on a hook above the sink for it to drain. Rinse it under the faucet 1-2 times a day.

The jar method will find you dumping that same pile of previously soaked seeds into a jar, covering the top with a strip of cheesecloth (secure it with a rubber band). To keep the seeds moist, you’re going to want to rinse and drain the seeds 1-2 times a day as you do with the hemp bag. I like to let mine grow to be about an inch long but you can eat them as soon as the tails appear. Once they are at the length you want them, rinse out any seed husks that remain and store them in the refrigerator.

Sprouts not only taste good, but they are incredible good for you. Those little sprouts contain the B-complex vitamins, vitamins A and C and other goodness like iron, calcium, protein, antioxidants, and beneficial enzymes…the list could go on – and it does. For more information on sprouts, be sure to check out Steve Meyerowitz’s book, Sprouts: The Miracle Food.


There are an amazing number of gadgets out there to help you grow herbs on your kitchen counter. Check out the AeroGarden or Herb kits – loaded with a lot of fun stuff for your countertop garden.

So yes, you can go with a kit but my friends David and Ellie (who happen to be blessed with a vastly larger countertop than yours truly) have their incredible little herb garden growing in tiny pots all around the sink and stove (they even grow salad and green chile!). They key? Sunlight and water. Imagine. Again, follow the basics of indoor container gardening: quality, well-drained soil, adequate sunlight and watering and be sure to pick the appropriate plant for the size pot (those little 4 ½ inch terra cotta pots work nicely for most herbs). I would suggest using annual herbs such as basil, chives, mint and parsley in place of the more woody perennials. But I also encourage you to experiment! Both sage and rosemary do well indoors. Oh and don’t forget, garlic…I’ve had very good results growing garlic in small pots.

Harvest your herbs before they flower. That is when their flavor is the best. Use them often. Pinch those leaves off and eat them so that the plant branches out and becomes more productive. If you can’t keep up and the plant is putting out flowers faster than you can deal, shear the whole thing back by about a third and start again.


You’d be surprised at just how dry your indoor air can be. You’re going to have to be very careful to keep your herbs moist. Another friend of mine with ample counter space has his herbs sitting in pots and the pots sitting in a shallow basin filled with water. The herbs are able to suck up water from the base of the pot and likewise benefit from the evaporating water. If you do this, don’t let your basin dry out. Other issues can arise from it being too hot or too cold in the house or that your herbs are not getting enough sunlight.

I’ve also had a problem with pests taking over my basil. Because there is no winter chill to kill off bugs, you may find your herb garden swarmed with pests. As you would for other indoor plants, create a solution of tepid water and soap and either dip the top of the plant into the solution or use a spray bottle to soak the plant. Be sure to get the solution on the underside of the leaves where the eggs live.

You’ll have to experiment at first but after you get your counter-top garden set, maintenance will not be an issue. Visit Indoor Herb Garden and Make a One-Pot Indoor Herb Garden for more helpful hints.

Seed Sprouting List

Here’s a list of plants that have great seeds for sprouting from Mother Earth News:

Adzuki bean, Alfalfa Kale, Arugula, Broccoli, Buckwheat , Cabbage, Chickpeas, Chinese cabbage, Clover, Cress, Crimson, Fenugreek, Garlic chives, Kale, Kamut, Lentils, Mung bean, Mustard, Onions, Peas (green), Quinoa, Radish, Red Clover, Sunflower